Kathy Sierra makes me so happy. I don’t know her personally but her Happy blog post a few days ago is a blast – well a must read if you have a bit of time. Get negative folks out of your life now – of course we can’t banish them to their own ghetto how would they get better but first: think about yourself, you can’t help them if you don’t start by helping yourself. This hits home quite nicely actually because I personally remember my entirely conscious decision to get negative people out of my life. It was in 1998 and I have never regretted it. I don’t work with negative people, play with negative people nor interact with them – they are not allowed in my space. Friends sometimes think that I am quite a pill – but that’s ok, I have this little rule: no negativity around me and that means no negative people. They can hang out with each other and leave me out of it. Oh happy days! I am not out there walking the streets with a silly smile on… I accomplish far more by focusing on what needs my focus and leaving all negative comments and influences out.
Richard Restak writes:
"If you want to accomplish something that demands determination and endurance, try to surround yourself with people possessing these qualities. And try to limit the time you spend with people given to pessimism and expressions of futility. Unfortunately, negative emotions exert a more powerful effect in social situations than positive ones, thanks to the phenomena of emotional contagion."
Go ahead take the time to read Kathy’s post – I don’t agree with all but the message is right there: "limit the time you spend with people given to pessimism" and I would add "negativity" and you will find the determination to accomplish what you want (if you want).